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10 Traits of Independent Women


An independent woman is the “together” woman that gets results in life that she is actually looking for…

10 Power Traits of Independent Women:

1) She has clearly defined goals.
2) She knows what she doesn’t want AND what she wants…and she’s not afraid to go after it.
3) She’s secure with herself and always motivated for success.
4) She lives in the moment without losing sight of her future.
5) She attracts the right kind of people into her life that both accept and support her.
6) She releases her baggage, outmoded beliefs, and relationships that no longer serve her best interest.
7) She has a high sense of self worth, deserving-ness, and purpose.
8) She doesn’t give up easily and picks herself up after setbacks.
9) She picks her battles and thinks before acting.
10) She takes care of herself and is aware of her needs.

The “Big 10”

Can you add to this list? Is there anything you would take away? The “Big 10” here are qualities that every woman not only deserves, but needs to have to live a satisfying life. However, due to social conditioning (since practically birth) women often never have the chance to develop these qualities that most men seem to show from an early age.

Dump Your Baggage

If you want to become stronger, happier and more independent, you have to start at the ground level by releasing your past and the conditioning you received from others that helped to create it. If you’re still carrying around hang-ups and beating yourself up, let me be the first to tell you that it’s not going to help. All negative self talk and image really does for you is negatively reinforce all those things you don’t really like about yourself and your life. Even the people in it…you know…those people that probably never belonged in there in the first place.


Reprogramming your subconscious mind and the patterns it creates for you with new positive frameworks is the easiest way to go to accomplish your personal transformation into a successful, independent and purpose driven woman. I’ve seen it innumerable times in my own work – we don’t think and act on a conscious level and it shows…and hurts. We are driven by subconscious patterns and beliefs and often never know it so we can’t consciously change it. Repeating negative pattern over negative pattern is a miserable existence!

Rewire & Replace

Rewiring your brain for good is actually a simple process. YES, really. We act based on what we are told, shown, etc. And then, the subconscious makes sometimes-weird connections to events and pretty soon we are right smack dab in the middle of making mistakes…and lots of them due to the stuff that fills our inner brain. To reverse the negative program process we simply feed that inner mind with all the good stuff that should’ve been put into it in the first place. Suggestions like you deserve to be happy, loved, successful, etc. are simple phrases we sometimes rarely, if ever hear and they are priceless in the boost they can provide us with when given in a steady stream.

Just DO It!

Make the decision to get on your fast track NOW. You deserve to create the strong, healthy bridge between your conscious desires and your subconscious programming so that you can finally maximize your success and happiness in life. You’ll be able to become the soul in this life you were meant to, so go ahead, decide today that you are going to dump those old patterns that have never ever probably really served you in any beneficial way anyway to make room to embrace something better. You just might be surprised and delighted at the new you and what you can do!


Fear, Love and Many Shades of Grey


 Are you living in love, or fear? Judged, or in judgement of others? Why? In today’s society, the lesser traits of humanity such as judgement, hatred (of the self and others) and dishonesty are running rampant among the infinite exchanges made among us on a daily basis. The truth is, when we judge others, we are judging ourselves, when we hate others, we are in essence, hating ourselves. Judgement and hate come from the same place; a lack of awareness in the Truth. The truth is, among the blurred values of black (fear) and white (love), we find the Many Shades of Grey, which represent a diversion from the Source, which is All Love.  A lack of self-love, for instance,  inhibits our ability to love another. 

Lack of awareness within, and of the self, provides an escape, a detachment if you will, from others. A kindred sense of unity, compassion and understanding is absent in our day-to-day plights. Most prevalent today is a gross lack of personal responsibility in every way imaginable.  Failure to take personal responsibility (for ourselves or others) only enables us to grow further and further away from our personal path and collective duty to better humankind. This in turn creates a detrimental trickle effect in which one lesser exchange produces infinite more of the same. 

Rare is a time in which someone opens a door for another, says please and thank you, and lends a helping hand when needed.  We have become consumed with materialism and how we present ourselves to the world. And in truth, there is nothing more demoralizing than living as an empty shell with scant semblance of human traits and qualities…

“If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives: Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies: Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank people will try to cheat you: Be honest anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight: Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous of you: Be happy anyway. The good you do today, will often be forgotten by tomorrow: Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough: Give your best anyway.”-Mother Teresa

Each of us has tremendous capacity for (self) love, understanding, compassion, understanding and caring for humankind; however, how often do we see these types of visible characteristics within ourselves or others? We are referenced as a “humanity”, yet true humanistic traits displayed among individuals are few and far between.  We can blame this deprivation of character on our parents, society, government, mental illness or imbalance and more. However, the irony is with this kind of mindset, that while we are busy blaming everything and everyone under the sun, moon, and stars very few people DO anything about it!

How can we expect humanity to pull together as a whole when so many of us refuse to even start with the basic work of self-awareness, becoming awake and authentic to who and what we are with a sense of purpose? 

T.S. Elliot said, “Home is where one starts from”, and I couldn’t agree more. Even something as simply as one small random act of kindness serves as the catalyst for many more of the same, as will one random act of thoughtlessness, rudeness or disregard.  It’s important for us to realize as a collective, positive change starts from within, and therefore moves naturally outward, seeking many targets as it goes.  To awaken and empower oneself is in its purest essence, a gift to all of humanity.

“It is because Humanity has never known where it was going that is has been able to find its way.” Oscar Wilde