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10 Traits of Independent Women


An independent woman is the “together” woman that gets results in life that she is actually looking for…

10 Power Traits of Independent Women:

1) She has clearly defined goals.
2) She knows what she doesn’t want AND what she wants…and she’s not afraid to go after it.
3) She’s secure with herself and always motivated for success.
4) She lives in the moment without losing sight of her future.
5) She attracts the right kind of people into her life that both accept and support her.
6) She releases her baggage, outmoded beliefs, and relationships that no longer serve her best interest.
7) She has a high sense of self worth, deserving-ness, and purpose.
8) She doesn’t give up easily and picks herself up after setbacks.
9) She picks her battles and thinks before acting.
10) She takes care of herself and is aware of her needs.

The “Big 10”

Can you add to this list? Is there anything you would take away? The “Big 10” here are qualities that every woman not only deserves, but needs to have to live a satisfying life. However, due to social conditioning (since practically birth) women often never have the chance to develop these qualities that most men seem to show from an early age.

Dump Your Baggage

If you want to become stronger, happier and more independent, you have to start at the ground level by releasing your past and the conditioning you received from others that helped to create it. If you’re still carrying around hang-ups and beating yourself up, let me be the first to tell you that it’s not going to help. All negative self talk and image really does for you is negatively reinforce all those things you don’t really like about yourself and your life. Even the people in it…you know…those people that probably never belonged in there in the first place.


Reprogramming your subconscious mind and the patterns it creates for you with new positive frameworks is the easiest way to go to accomplish your personal transformation into a successful, independent and purpose driven woman. I’ve seen it innumerable times in my own work – we don’t think and act on a conscious level and it shows…and hurts. We are driven by subconscious patterns and beliefs and often never know it so we can’t consciously change it. Repeating negative pattern over negative pattern is a miserable existence!

Rewire & Replace

Rewiring your brain for good is actually a simple process. YES, really. We act based on what we are told, shown, etc. And then, the subconscious makes sometimes-weird connections to events and pretty soon we are right smack dab in the middle of making mistakes…and lots of them due to the stuff that fills our inner brain. To reverse the negative program process we simply feed that inner mind with all the good stuff that should’ve been put into it in the first place. Suggestions like you deserve to be happy, loved, successful, etc. are simple phrases we sometimes rarely, if ever hear and they are priceless in the boost they can provide us with when given in a steady stream.

Just DO It!

Make the decision to get on your fast track NOW. You deserve to create the strong, healthy bridge between your conscious desires and your subconscious programming so that you can finally maximize your success and happiness in life. You’ll be able to become the soul in this life you were meant to, so go ahead, decide today that you are going to dump those old patterns that have never ever probably really served you in any beneficial way anyway to make room to embrace something better. You just might be surprised and delighted at the new you and what you can do!


Finding Like Minds

ImageThere is nothing I find more inspiring than encounters with Like Minds.  Reading blogs, books and social media posts that resonate with me is an irreplaceable part of my day, as is a spirited conversation on philosophical subjects.

Often, when we are on the path to liberation and positive change, we tend to move away from those not in alignment or resonance with us, and toward those who are.  This can be an incredible experience!

Surrounding ourselves with those influences that empower us, awaken us, make us laugh and be inspired is the absolute best thing we can do for ourselves when we need a pick me up or stronger sense of direction in life.  The path of transformation itself becomes much easier when we realize we are not alone.

“Life is one big road with a lot of signs. So when you are riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief, and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake up and live!” -Bob Marley

A Guide to Woman’s Intuition


“A Woman’s Intuition” is the term used to describe the uncanny ability women often show as an active response to any number of situations that would be considered outside the realm of typical logic or reason in terms of knowing or feeling, or both.

It manifests itself in:

  • Romantic Relationships

  • With Children and Family Members

  • Random Situations

So, basically it’s safe to say that the Inner Compass of Woman responds naturally to a wide variety of stimulus we encounter on a daily basis.

So why do so many of us question it’s legitimacy?

We naturally get feelings and senses about most of the things we come into contact with on a daily basis without any logical, practical, or rational basis at all. Often, intuition is such an ingrained part of us, we tend to lose the ability to separate true intuition from who we are, instead rationalizing away the feelings or notions we get as imagination, nonsense, etc.

Women are innate nurturers; it’s in our biology. It is my belief that since we are so connected to that infinitely compassionate part of ourselves, recognizing and utilizing our intuition has it’s purpose in not only caring for (and about) others, but is also to be used for our highest good and fulfillment in life. However, we most often nurture ourselves last, or never at all!

Types of Intuition

A good way to distinguish innate intuition from guidance otherwise outside of the Self, is to listen to your thoughts and feelings in the context of “I’s”and “You’s”. Intuitive senses in the self form indicate it’s coming from an internal mechanism. These abstract translations typically operate from the place of our highest personal benefit. “You” type thoughts and feelings are typically coming from an outside force that most people identify with as an external guide, guardian, force, etc. of a positive nature.

In general, negative thoughts, feelings, etc., are not naturally occurring and usually come from a force outside of us that does not have our best benefit in mind. This could be illustrated as a sense of uneasiness toward a person, place or situation that has dark potentials, for example.

Additionally, any kind of negative thought or feeling we have about ourselves is typically the result of negative programming we are faced with in our environments, usually starting from a very young age when we are learning socially acceptable behavior. We are raised to believe every action, motivation, and belief we have should be acceptable to someone else and sets the bar for living a life for everyone else, neglecting the Self.

Embrace Yourself

It’s of the utmost important to allow ourselves the opportunity to determine who and what we are independently of the opinions, judgements and beliefs others hold about, or for us.

We are raised to believe that to be a strong, grounded woman we must exercise rationalism, practicality and logical thinking always. Erroneously, this primary type of thinking is the very thinking that most often leads us from the Path of Empowerment and Authentic Self. The result is that we end up living a life of misery, making choices for the benefit of pleasing others and/or fitting in, ultimately neglecting ourselves and our unique journey in life, and honestly, never really knowing who we are authentically.

“ The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” – C.G. Jung


Paths to Empowerment: How To Find Your Unique Niche in Life


Inherently Unique

You are inherently unique. You have been blessed in infinite ways with specialized gifts from the Creator, which are also attached to an innate calling, or sense of purpose in this lifetime. These gifts equate to your special calling, which defines and drives you to find and execute your sense of purpose. Our experience of time is linear and seemingly concrete, though in the cosmic or universal sense, time is much more flexible and abstract. This means the opportunities we need to fully find and execute our sense of purpose may be presented to our awareness either early or later in life and may require part, or full-time attention.

 A Call for Change

Most of us go through periods in life where we feel restless and unfulfilled with relationships, career, life direction and finances. This dissonance can be recognized in two ways: either transition is coming into your life on its own, or its time to move forward and create transition for yourself. The difference between the two is that outside transitions seem to happen in unexpected ways and out of the blue, whereas an internal transition is the catalyst to begin moving into new directions in an effort to calm that sense of being unfulfilled or to heed the call for change.

 Things we are naturally good at or gifted with are indicators that those areas are ones in which are tied to your purpose. Whether it be helping, healing or teaching others, being a numbers or electronic whiz, or being extraordinarily gifted with words, music or artistic expression, these are all equally as important in finding and executing your purpose. Many people feel their gifts are not significant enough to make an impact on others, or are not as important or “great” as those others possess. This is simply not true. A rainbow wouldn’t be a rainbow without a multitude of colors. Just as we all represent a part of the creator and are equally as significant, so too are the gifts you possess to the world.

Breaking from Convention

In general, most of us begin our adult chapter by doing things in traditional, conventional ways that others expect from us. We may even go all the way through college studying something we don’t enjoy, find a job in the field and work it for many years before we decide we’re tired of living without a sense of fulfilled purpose. Others may come out of the gate marching to their own drum in search of finding that sense of doing what they’re supposed to be doing right away and others pass from this life to the next having leaving much work to do. In truth, our purposes are many throughout life and takes us through a multitude of different chapters. The question becomes, “How motivated am I to find and fulfill my purpose(s) in this life?”.

We know what we don’t want from life, as it’s reflected in how we feel about people and situations in a very noticeable way. Figuring out what you do want and how to get it can be much more difficult. However, with courage and a willingness to step outside of others expectations, convention, and tradition, everyone has the ability to explore, find and execute his or her purpose(s) in this lifetime. Ask yourself what your really good at, what you enjoy doing, and how you can harness what you have to offer in a way to assist, enrich and support or inspire others? Do you have artistic or musical ability? Great leadership skills? Are you a born teacher?

Multi-purpose Purpose(s)

 Whatever your purpose is, whether it be one or more, one which requires only a part-time commitment, or one that requires more, by finding and executing your purpose you open yourself up to an enjoyable existence – one which reignites passion for life, offers prosperity and abundance, and enriches humanity in some way as a whole.   Your gift to the world … is YOU.

“What you are seeking is seeking you.” -Rumi


Guide to Empowerment: Lesson One

ImageAre you awake? Do you feel powerful in the creation of your life? If not, is it someone Else’s fault? Who is responsible?

Still Asleep

Many years ago as a newbie in college, my Feminist Theory, Sociology and Philosophy classes were the first opportunities I had been given to really be formally introduced to the topic of gender equality and the ideas and feelings many people had about the issue. These early eye-opening experiences provided the platform for me to go on to help other women be(come) empowered as both a calling and vocation. In the decade plus following those early college years, I have since been privy to plenty of debate on empowerment based in gender (or not), and I’ve heard many “interesting” ideas ranging from the good, the bad, and the incredible.

If you ask most people a question about women being empowered the typical response you will hear is something along the lines of , “Women are not being empowered because men are given all the “power”.  I strongly disagree with this idea because it sounds much more like a justification for a fixed social system than a clear understanding of something we truly have the power to change on an individual level.

Then and Now

Years before the well-known uprising of patriarchy , the women in society – the matriarchs – topped the cultural and social ranks. 

Today we can still find matriarchal structures operating, though unfortunately, they are typically exclusive to many isolated peoples around the globe, with one broad exception. Matriarchs are aplenty in populated cultures, though they are typically only the matriarch of the home and play a lesser role in societal influence, politics, religion, etc. Thankfully, this dynamic is changing as we see many more men taking more active roles within family units, and many more a woman taking the bull (Life) by the horns and providing herself the opportunity to explore her potential with chosen freedom, and be(come) empowered as a personal choice to follow her dreams.

Myth: Women cannot be(come) empowered because we live in a society dominated by men.

Truth: Empowerment has nothing to do with being a man or woman and everything to do with the conditions a person is subjected to.

Wake Up

Raising consciousness, to “awaken”, or to embrace a somewhat stereotypical feminist ideology (as some do) are alternative (and potentially extremist) ways we socially describe the process and lifestyle of becoming and living empowered.  Actually, the term “empowered” is relatively new in our society, yet the difficulties associated with it are centuries old.

To awaken to potential, intrinsic value, worth, talents, gifts and abilities residing within us in desperate need of rediscovery are the keys to becoming empowered and living an empowered life. 

From the time we are small, the opinions, feeling, thoughts and baggage of others shape not only our perceptions of the world, its people and how it all works together, it also creates our own beliefs about the kind of person we are, what our potential is, what we can have, what we deserve and more. In summation, to not live in the space of empowerment is a result of not allowing ourselves the opportunity to know ourselves and become authentic. 

Our natural state is one of wholeness and peace, and until we begin to uproot the beliefs and patterns we have taken in from others that do not truly belong to us, we will continue to exist in a state of dis-empowerment. Developing our own presence is a process, and it takes time and work, but the benefit in the end is priceless…