Paths to Empowerment: How To Find Your Unique Niche in Life


Inherently Unique

You are inherently unique. You have been blessed in infinite ways with specialized gifts from the Creator, which are also attached to an innate calling, or sense of purpose in this lifetime. These gifts equate to your special calling, which defines and drives you to find and execute your sense of purpose. Our experience of time is linear and seemingly concrete, though in the cosmic or universal sense, time is much more flexible and abstract. This means the opportunities we need to fully find and execute our sense of purpose may be presented to our awareness either early or later in life and may require part, or full-time attention.

 A Call for Change

Most of us go through periods in life where we feel restless and unfulfilled with relationships, career, life direction and finances. This dissonance can be recognized in two ways: either transition is coming into your life on its own, or its time to move forward and create transition for yourself. The difference between the two is that outside transitions seem to happen in unexpected ways and out of the blue, whereas an internal transition is the catalyst to begin moving into new directions in an effort to calm that sense of being unfulfilled or to heed the call for change.

 Things we are naturally good at or gifted with are indicators that those areas are ones in which are tied to your purpose. Whether it be helping, healing or teaching others, being a numbers or electronic whiz, or being extraordinarily gifted with words, music or artistic expression, these are all equally as important in finding and executing your purpose. Many people feel their gifts are not significant enough to make an impact on others, or are not as important or “great” as those others possess. This is simply not true. A rainbow wouldn’t be a rainbow without a multitude of colors. Just as we all represent a part of the creator and are equally as significant, so too are the gifts you possess to the world.

Breaking from Convention

In general, most of us begin our adult chapter by doing things in traditional, conventional ways that others expect from us. We may even go all the way through college studying something we don’t enjoy, find a job in the field and work it for many years before we decide we’re tired of living without a sense of fulfilled purpose. Others may come out of the gate marching to their own drum in search of finding that sense of doing what they’re supposed to be doing right away and others pass from this life to the next having leaving much work to do. In truth, our purposes are many throughout life and takes us through a multitude of different chapters. The question becomes, “How motivated am I to find and fulfill my purpose(s) in this life?”.

We know what we don’t want from life, as it’s reflected in how we feel about people and situations in a very noticeable way. Figuring out what you do want and how to get it can be much more difficult. However, with courage and a willingness to step outside of others expectations, convention, and tradition, everyone has the ability to explore, find and execute his or her purpose(s) in this lifetime. Ask yourself what your really good at, what you enjoy doing, and how you can harness what you have to offer in a way to assist, enrich and support or inspire others? Do you have artistic or musical ability? Great leadership skills? Are you a born teacher?

Multi-purpose Purpose(s)

 Whatever your purpose is, whether it be one or more, one which requires only a part-time commitment, or one that requires more, by finding and executing your purpose you open yourself up to an enjoyable existence – one which reignites passion for life, offers prosperity and abundance, and enriches humanity in some way as a whole.   Your gift to the world … is YOU.

“What you are seeking is seeking you.” -Rumi



Fear, Love and Many Shades of Grey


 Are you living in love, or fear? Judged, or in judgement of others? Why? In today’s society, the lesser traits of humanity such as judgement, hatred (of the self and others) and dishonesty are running rampant among the infinite exchanges made among us on a daily basis. The truth is, when we judge others, we are judging ourselves, when we hate others, we are in essence, hating ourselves. Judgement and hate come from the same place; a lack of awareness in the Truth. The truth is, among the blurred values of black (fear) and white (love), we find the Many Shades of Grey, which represent a diversion from the Source, which is All Love.  A lack of self-love, for instance,  inhibits our ability to love another. 

Lack of awareness within, and of the self, provides an escape, a detachment if you will, from others. A kindred sense of unity, compassion and understanding is absent in our day-to-day plights. Most prevalent today is a gross lack of personal responsibility in every way imaginable.  Failure to take personal responsibility (for ourselves or others) only enables us to grow further and further away from our personal path and collective duty to better humankind. This in turn creates a detrimental trickle effect in which one lesser exchange produces infinite more of the same. 

Rare is a time in which someone opens a door for another, says please and thank you, and lends a helping hand when needed.  We have become consumed with materialism and how we present ourselves to the world. And in truth, there is nothing more demoralizing than living as an empty shell with scant semblance of human traits and qualities…

“If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives: Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies: Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank people will try to cheat you: Be honest anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight: Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous of you: Be happy anyway. The good you do today, will often be forgotten by tomorrow: Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough: Give your best anyway.”-Mother Teresa

Each of us has tremendous capacity for (self) love, understanding, compassion, understanding and caring for humankind; however, how often do we see these types of visible characteristics within ourselves or others? We are referenced as a “humanity”, yet true humanistic traits displayed among individuals are few and far between.  We can blame this deprivation of character on our parents, society, government, mental illness or imbalance and more. However, the irony is with this kind of mindset, that while we are busy blaming everything and everyone under the sun, moon, and stars very few people DO anything about it!

How can we expect humanity to pull together as a whole when so many of us refuse to even start with the basic work of self-awareness, becoming awake and authentic to who and what we are with a sense of purpose? 

T.S. Elliot said, “Home is where one starts from”, and I couldn’t agree more. Even something as simply as one small random act of kindness serves as the catalyst for many more of the same, as will one random act of thoughtlessness, rudeness or disregard.  It’s important for us to realize as a collective, positive change starts from within, and therefore moves naturally outward, seeking many targets as it goes.  To awaken and empower oneself is in its purest essence, a gift to all of humanity.

“It is because Humanity has never known where it was going that is has been able to find its way.” Oscar Wilde


Guide to Empowerment: Lesson One

ImageAre you awake? Do you feel powerful in the creation of your life? If not, is it someone Else’s fault? Who is responsible?

Still Asleep

Many years ago as a newbie in college, my Feminist Theory, Sociology and Philosophy classes were the first opportunities I had been given to really be formally introduced to the topic of gender equality and the ideas and feelings many people had about the issue. These early eye-opening experiences provided the platform for me to go on to help other women be(come) empowered as both a calling and vocation. In the decade plus following those early college years, I have since been privy to plenty of debate on empowerment based in gender (or not), and I’ve heard many “interesting” ideas ranging from the good, the bad, and the incredible.

If you ask most people a question about women being empowered the typical response you will hear is something along the lines of , “Women are not being empowered because men are given all the “power”.  I strongly disagree with this idea because it sounds much more like a justification for a fixed social system than a clear understanding of something we truly have the power to change on an individual level.

Then and Now

Years before the well-known uprising of patriarchy , the women in society – the matriarchs – topped the cultural and social ranks. 

Today we can still find matriarchal structures operating, though unfortunately, they are typically exclusive to many isolated peoples around the globe, with one broad exception. Matriarchs are aplenty in populated cultures, though they are typically only the matriarch of the home and play a lesser role in societal influence, politics, religion, etc. Thankfully, this dynamic is changing as we see many more men taking more active roles within family units, and many more a woman taking the bull (Life) by the horns and providing herself the opportunity to explore her potential with chosen freedom, and be(come) empowered as a personal choice to follow her dreams.

Myth: Women cannot be(come) empowered because we live in a society dominated by men.

Truth: Empowerment has nothing to do with being a man or woman and everything to do with the conditions a person is subjected to.

Wake Up

Raising consciousness, to “awaken”, or to embrace a somewhat stereotypical feminist ideology (as some do) are alternative (and potentially extremist) ways we socially describe the process and lifestyle of becoming and living empowered.  Actually, the term “empowered” is relatively new in our society, yet the difficulties associated with it are centuries old.

To awaken to potential, intrinsic value, worth, talents, gifts and abilities residing within us in desperate need of rediscovery are the keys to becoming empowered and living an empowered life. 

From the time we are small, the opinions, feeling, thoughts and baggage of others shape not only our perceptions of the world, its people and how it all works together, it also creates our own beliefs about the kind of person we are, what our potential is, what we can have, what we deserve and more. In summation, to not live in the space of empowerment is a result of not allowing ourselves the opportunity to know ourselves and become authentic. 

Our natural state is one of wholeness and peace, and until we begin to uproot the beliefs and patterns we have taken in from others that do not truly belong to us, we will continue to exist in a state of dis-empowerment. Developing our own presence is a process, and it takes time and work, but the benefit in the end is priceless…